Women beware

I don’t even know where to begin; I saw this video and was devastated, mortified, horrified, terrified, and saddened all in one! This mad mans “mission” invokes a number of different emotions from me! (watch it then read on)


First off I am saddened for the young girls who learn to be women by watching the television, listening to rap music and watching rap videos. Honestly, it is not entirely their fault that they are promiscuous or as my mother used to say “desperate for love.” In many instances they are “raised” by single mothers who are too busy working two and three minimum wage paying jobs that barely take care of the bills to parent their children. As a result these girls are left to their own devices and are given the responsibility to raise themselves and learn on their own how to be “women.” The sad thing is that for Black and Latino women what the media teachings about being a woman are limited to the beautiful, glamorous, rich looking females on the rap videos. These females who are idolized have been reduced to sex objects so of course these young girls think that to be a woman and to be loved means to lie on their back and open their legs. Shame!

Second I am saddened for the women who have been emotionally injured by men. Many of these women have been hurt so bad that all they want to do is “not feel” or “date like a man.” The down fall to this is dating like a man comes with consequences (obviously based on this video), maybe a few years ago it was ok to meet a guy in a club and “hook up” but in this day and age a one nigh stand could mark the beginning of the end of your life. I don’t know how true it is but I was told about this new strain of the AIDS virus that some are calling “Super AIDS” apparently it is eating through condoms! So it is not even about using protection anymore it is about being extremely selective with your partners! EXTREAMLY!

Thirdly (which I will also make last although I have a lot more to say) I am afraid for the women in the category which I fall under. The women who have been trying hard to wait for someone who is worthy but is getting tired, the woman who fully understands all of the dangers out their but are constantly faced with the men in need of instant gratification. I am afraid for us because it is only a matter of time before our human weakness gets the better of us! I must say that it would be a TRAGIDY the if in a moment of weakness we came in contact with the MURDER in the video above! As a woman that falls into this category of EXTREAMLY SELECTIVE women I must say that it has been my experience that most men want sex and them want it NOW! That would be ok IF there was not the possibility that they slept with one of the women whose name was just called. We must remember that although the man in the above video is CRAZY and we are careful to stay away from men like him who have the men that we are interested in slept with? And who have they slept with? It is enough to see paperwork anymore? Is it necessary for us not to have joint blood test prior to consummating any relationship?

I must say I am AFRAID deathly AFRAID! I mean yes sex is good but it is in now way shape or form good enough for me to loose my life over. All I have to say to the women who slept with ol’dude in the video… that better have been the best sex of your life! He better have eaten it every which way from here to Canada, AND you had better have busted at least 6 nuts! But I know you didn’t he was probably wack and lasted only 10 minutes. (the ones we regret are usually the ones who can’t work it)

i spy

I spy with my little eye…

It’s dark

It’s empty.

Is it your soul?

Correct

Feelings......nothing more than feelings

It never ceases to amaze me how certain people don’t understand how their words affect people. If you care about people isn’t it nice for you to actually care about their feelings? (Especially when they are supposedly a “close” friend) I am not sure if it is because I work in the therapy field or if because I was raised by parents who were not afraid to be open with their feelings.

I kind of just want to know what is so scary about embracing your feelings. Do people really need to protect themselves to the point where they are actually hurting other, making them feel like cow dung? I know that being open, 100% honest it not the easiest but it is not the hardest thing either, it will not be the end of the world. If more people tried it the world might actually be a happier place, people might share more love and end up in better relationships!

Anyway, tonight I decided I am not going to all others to dictate the way I feel. I am not going to alter my mood because people are afraid of their feelings. I have my feelings, I know and understand them and ok with that! However, my decision is not to be second best to someone’s lack of understanding (or acceptance) of their feelings. Like a good friend said to me this evening, I’m not gonna let any one piss in my papaya!

i'm LETTING GO

Since I remember I have been a reader, however while reading when something in the story makes me nervous I always turned to the last chapter to see how the story ends. I don’t know why I guess it just makes me feel better to know what the outcome will be.

Now the issue is that my childhood bad habit has transferred into my adult life! I NEED to know the end of MY story! I want to know where I will live, what job I will have, and most importantly THE MAN I WILL END UP WITH. I get frustrated that I don’t know the end of the story. But I NEED to LET GO AND LET GOD!

In speaking with a good friend of mine about this guy that I am deeply into, who clearly can not see my greatness, she told me. “If you think HE is great imagine how WONDERFUL the man that GOD has for you will be if you just LET GO!”

So this is my declaration that I am LETTING GO! I know what I want, I know what my heart yearns for BUT I am going to TRUST GOD! HIS ending will be greater then ANY ending I could write…..

My new GOSPEL ANTHEM “Let Go”……….